Parent and Infant Relationship Service (PAIRS)

PAIRS helps you spend quality time with your child and improve your relationship through Together Time groups and 1-1 support

Being a parent or carer will not come easily to everyone. It is common to feel overwhelmed, feel a dip in confidence and struggle with new responsibilities. You may also have challenging feelings about yourself, your partner or even your child at times.

How we can support you

The relationship between you and your baby is vital to their development. This requires work and time, like all relationships. We understand that there might be things that get in the way of this.

We can work one-to-one with you and your child, or on your own if you're expecting a baby. You can also join a Together Time group, where you'll be able to share feelings and experiences with other parents. 

Support from an interpreter can be provided if needed.

Watch our video to find out more from the team and parents who have taken part

One-to-one support

We offer one-to-one sessions where we get to know each other and spend some time interacting with your baby or toddler. We will talk about your experiences, your hopes and day to day life.

We also get to know you and your child by watching you play together, thinking about how your child tries to communicate with you and behaves, and how you respond. You will also have a chance to discuss your experiences and what you and your baby need. 

Sessions can take place at your home, at a children's centre, or other venue where you feel comfortable.

You can be referred by any professional that might be supporting you, for example a health visitor, family worker, stay and play worker or social worker. Or you can get in touch yourself to sign up.

Once referred someone from our team will contact you to tell you a bit more about the service and get to know you.

Check whether you live in the LEAP area where PAIRS can support you using our postcode checker

Get in touch, email: PAIRS_Lambeth@slam.nhs.uk or call: 020 3228 6771

Together Time groups

Together Time is a group for families with babies between three and eight months old. It is a safe space for you to be with your baby, to explore and understand your relationship, and to share feelings and experiences with other parents. 

The group runs over six sessions. Each session lasts for one and a half hours. Six to eight other parents and their babies will be in the group. 

At the group you'll find: 

  • A relaxed, friendly and comfortable environment, with toys and songs for your baby, and drinks and snacks for you 
  • An opportunity to meet other parents with babies and discuss your experiences of parenting 
  • A chance to learn about an approach to help you observe and understand your baby better

Together Time is designed to:

  • Help you strengthen your relationship with your baby 
  • Support you to be with and observe your baby in the ‘here and now’ 
  • Explore your baby’s thoughts, feelings and behaviours, and your ways of responding to him or her 
  • Give you a chance to discuss your experience of your child’s play and interaction

You can be referred by any professional that might be supporting you, for example a health visitor, family worker, stay and play worker or social worker. Or you can get in touch yourself to sign up.

Once referred, someone from our team will contact you to tell you a bit more about the group and answer any questions that you might have. If you decide that you would like to go ahead with the group, they will ask you a little bit about you and your baby as a way of getting to know you.

Check whether you live in the LEAP area where PAIRS can support you using our postcode checker

Get in touch to find out when the next session starts, email: PAIRS_Lambeth@slam.nhs.uk or call: 020 3228 6771

Our partners

LEAP runs PAIRS in partnership with South London and Maudsley NHS Foundation Trust.

We work with health visitors, midwives, social workers, children's centre teams and others to build a team around you and your child.

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